signal to noise

sometimes it's just hard to connect and it frustrates me.

for the most part, i try to be both sensible in communicating where i'm coming from and understanding in what others are trying to convey. but it's never perfect, i start to lose patience at around the second failure in a row. it happens to the best of us, it happens at the worst of times. but when it happens, we have to pick ourselves up cause that's not really who we are.

i like writing here cause there aren't any repercussions for being misunderstood and i can fully express myself without even having anything to say, really. it's entirely different in social situations. it should be a two way street. yeah sure, you can settle with being misunderstood if you're that desperate. it works for some. but for me, i simply don't want to waste my time being in the wrong conversation.

sometimes you have to put your foot down, take a step back, and look at the bigger picture. it's a two way street, and somehow, i'm driving the wrong way too. i don't want to crash into anything. so sometimes you just have to hit the brakes.

it's gonna stall some things a bit, but pauses are necessary to straighten things out towards the right direction.


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