love apparently
love requires living in the here and now.
we more or less have our fair share past transgressions, present personality quirks and psychosocial tendencies indicative of our future actions that all make us repulsive. some easily apparent to others, some solely visible to ourselves, but a lot will be revealed when someone spends a long enough time with us through our best and worst.
we have our coping mechanisms: other people cover it up and outright deny any negativity, other people offset by being more likable in other aspects. but no matter how much make up you cake on, no matter how admirable you can try hard to be, it's an inescapable fact that our flaws will be part and parcel of the person that we truly are.
this is where a concerted effort between two lovers come in to make an enduring relationship.
it's in never giving up to the best of your abilities, it's in being patient and trying to understand, it's in seeing things in the right perspective to judge situations and to make the correct decisions moving forward. sounds like a lot but something as gratifying as keeping the person you'd want to grow old with entails an almost infinite amount of work to carry, and being able to survive it all requires the right circumstance, having the right kind of mindset, and being with the right person.
no matter how positively we esteem our partner or our relationship, there will always be fucked up things about each other that will trigger a fight or a cold spell. staying in love requires letting go of the past and preparing for the future, because all of which that makes us ugly, we have to learn to set aside to focus on the beauty of the person present and appreciate the opportunity to be together in love.
foolish as it may sound, sometimes we need to forget in oder to have something unforgettable.
we more or less have our fair share past transgressions, present personality quirks and psychosocial tendencies indicative of our future actions that all make us repulsive. some easily apparent to others, some solely visible to ourselves, but a lot will be revealed when someone spends a long enough time with us through our best and worst.
we have our coping mechanisms: other people cover it up and outright deny any negativity, other people offset by being more likable in other aspects. but no matter how much make up you cake on, no matter how admirable you can try hard to be, it's an inescapable fact that our flaws will be part and parcel of the person that we truly are.
this is where a concerted effort between two lovers come in to make an enduring relationship.
it's in never giving up to the best of your abilities, it's in being patient and trying to understand, it's in seeing things in the right perspective to judge situations and to make the correct decisions moving forward. sounds like a lot but something as gratifying as keeping the person you'd want to grow old with entails an almost infinite amount of work to carry, and being able to survive it all requires the right circumstance, having the right kind of mindset, and being with the right person.
no matter how positively we esteem our partner or our relationship, there will always be fucked up things about each other that will trigger a fight or a cold spell. staying in love requires letting go of the past and preparing for the future, because all of which that makes us ugly, we have to learn to set aside to focus on the beauty of the person present and appreciate the opportunity to be together in love.
foolish as it may sound, sometimes we need to forget in oder to have something unforgettable.
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