rebound

i frequently find myself being the reason why relationships are pushed to the breaking point. 

and it has always been the same: just me genuinely showing up to provide emotional scaffolding buttressed by intellectual rigor of understanding the underlying dilemma. 

apparently, playing to my strengths inordinately reveal a romantic relationship's weakness. ironic because i don't keep the strongest relationships either. so i have empathy for the partners who suffered the consequences of my presence. at several points in my life, i was them.

i may not fully know these people - based only from the stories their aggrieved partner - but i have love for them. despite being the reason for complaints now, i'm sure at some point they felt strongly about their affection for the partner. they used to be excited for them, their hearts used to feel full from them.

but i'm always the guy who has to hear how their love is crumbling.

i share the pain, because i too was the reason for complaints. i share the pain, because i made the same mistakes.

ultimately, i share the pain, because i know where this goes.

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