rost in tlansration

i watch sofia coppola's lost in translation every now and then. if i can only watch one film in my entire life, i'll gladly give up every other film in history.

it resonates with me differently every time i see it. at first, i appreciated the subtle filmmaking that was borderline boring for most people. i loved the slowness of it all. the narrative was understated. it didn't seem like anything was happening, but if a picture can paint a thousand words, then 24 frames per second can say a lot of things without the need for dialogue. at first i had liked lost in translation because i felt like i could be the director sofia coppola.

as i've started getting into relationships, i understood the dynamic of couples eventually growing apart and feeling like the relationship is slowly dying. but somehow in that slow death, you find other people that spark life in you. there's no overt infidelity, just an honest recognition that you found someone that might convince you that your commitment to your partner can become a choice. with age, i started attracting younger women. apparently an air of stability and an underdeveloped sense of wisdom is inviting to them. i also learned that there's something alluring about the relative ignorance of youth. it works for me because i can exercise my masculine energy by being a provider and caretaker - which has historically been off character for me. it's actually refreshing. so as've gotten older, i liked lost in translation because i felt like i could be bill murray.

recently i got into a relationship with someone significantly younger than me. it ended on the worst of terms because she had admitted to juggling another tryst with a much older man. it took me quite a while to make sense of it. i poured a shit ton of my feelings in my writings here, and even then, i don't think i have all the answers. but in my latest viewing of lost in translation, it suddenly clicked with me: the beauty of a relationship between a young girl disaffected from her distant partner and an older man presenting an escape from it all. now i like lost in translation because i felt like i finally understood how one could become like scarlett johansson.