Upcycling

Let's pretend that we don't know what love is

When you think of family, what are they? A bunch of people who are most likely to be with. Your parents have a responsibility over you and are compelled to provide. Your siblings, if any, are just there doing their own thing, sometimes being a leech on the resources that your parents are supposed to provide you, sometimes being a total ass to you and sometimes helping you out.

All premised on proximity.

You grow up eventually and learn to live on your own, unless you're a typical asian household where you will have to live with family, but at some point you have to be alone. Some decide to live with someone else, usually by romantic affinity.

But again, we don't know what love is.

I guess when you find a partner, you find someone whom you're willing to spend a shitload of close proximity with. Cause that means sharing resources, potentially raising a child, but really it's the amount of time.

Perhaps if love can be measured, it's by the amount of time you are willing to spend with someone.

I broke up with my ex because i didn't want to spend any more time with her. While the time spent was generally good, and potentially it could've stayed good. But better always trumps good.

Then again there's always something objectively better out there. It's an upwards spiral, if ever such a thing exist. And that's when things stop being linear and you make a decision on what is best.

Of course our decisions will always have a degree of imperfection. That's why i stay in the current relationship I'm in. It's not always good, sometimes something else better pops out, but i decide that to stay with her is what's best.

While both good and better are anchored on objective truths, determining the best is solely based on your judgement.

So securing a lifetime of love isn't about finding who is better, but finding out why nothing else is better.