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the permanence of people eludes me. 

how we start out will never be how we finish. intense interpersonal resonance makes the present feel so strong that we believe we have power over the future.

i'm saddened that my relationships failed to evolve with me. i'm partly at fault. i was too complacent. i took it for granted. the work to get it isn't the same kind of work to maintain it. i didn't evolve with my relationships.

and it takes communication. clear communication. none of the obfuscations.

i need to work on that. i need to work on remembering respect for the other person. consideration of their needs. my words may be my own responsibility, but having a shared stake means i have to concern myself with how my message was received.

our words have power. our actions have power. communicating is both proper word choice and delivery.

i need to wield it from a place of love.

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